Sometimes, it can seem like your day will never end. Between making sure the house is clean, the kids are kept under control, and making sure your husband leaves the house with his briefcase before you leave for work yourself, it’s enough to make any mother exhausted by the time her head hits the pillow. Exhaustion and burn out is a real potential problem for many busy moms, and finding ways to prevent it should be at the top of your priority list. Here are a few of the best ways that moms worldwide have found to reduce the feeling of burnout.
Tip # 1: Organization is your Friend
Perhaps one of the most important lessons that a busy mom needs to learn is that being organized in your daily life can truly be a lifesaver. Being able to quickly find a wet-nap when your child has spilled a sticky, sugary juice box all over herself just before you pull into day care can mean the difference between a few moments of inconvenience, or worrying about how you’re going to get those stains out later. Staying organized is also a great way to keep dinnertime a free-stress zone. By taking a few hours over the weekend to cook the meals for the week, and organize them into microwavable containers, dinner during the week will be easy.
Tip # 2: Be Sure to Make a Connection
It’s safe to say that the majority of what you do each day is for the betterment and growth of you and your family. Unfortunately, with the chaotic and busy lives that moms routinely lead, we forget what it’s all being done for. It is important to remind yourself, each day why you are working so hard. Take the time to connect with your children, your husband, even your best friend down the block. By doing so, you’ll be able to keep everything in perspective. It doesn’t have to be anything spectacular. Sit down with your kids while they eat an after school snack. Talk with them about their day. Tell them about yours. Ask them to tell you the funniest thing that they saw that day during dinner – make it a contest with the winner picking the next meal to have. Take the time to spend some alone time with your husband – a trusted neighbor or a relative can certainly look after the kids for a few hours. By making and maintaining a connection with your family, you’ll start to understand how and when the balance between your work life and home life needs to shift and change. Having this understanding will certainly help prevent burnout in the long term.
Tip # 3: Realize that No One Can Do it All
Psst. I have a secret to tell you. I have yet to meet a mom who tries to do it all, and succeeds. Trying to be all things to all people all the time is one of the best ways to reach burnout at breakneck speeds. What many moms don’t realize though is that help is there for the asking – all you have to do is reach out your hand and say something. Delegate some chores to your husband and children. Ask your neighborhood worship place to see if they have a youth program that can look after your children for a few hours. There are even governmental programs available that can provide low-cost child care or groceries for those times when things get a little lean financially. A busy mom can certainly reduce her amount of stress if she uses the resources that are available to her.
Tip # 4: Reduce Burnout Potential by Balancing Your Life
One of the best ways that I have found to reduce stress in my life is to try to keep everything in balance. As a person, you have physical, mental, and spiritual needs that should be met on a consistent basis. After all, how can you expect to conquer the mountains in front of you if you are not up to the challenge? Before you can truly take care of anyone else, you must be able to take care of you. Often mothers will put even the family pet before their own well being, much to the chagrin of those around them later. So take an hour each day to exercise. Hire a cleaning service if you can. Take the time to read and study a new philosophy, or revisit a classic romance novel from your collection. By making sure there is time for your well being in your life, you’ll find that balance is much easier to maintain.
These are just a few tips that my friends and I have learned over the years to help keep us going. With all that is going on in their lives, it is little wonder why so many moms reach the stage of burnout so quickly. By following a few of these simple tips and by discovering a few more, hopefully your time of burnout will be a thing of the past.