Four Tips for Triumphing Over Emotional Setbacks

There’s a saying that goes, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” If this rings true to you, even a little bit, you can apply the expression to any emotional setback you experience. Each challenge can serve as both a learning tool and a growing experience if you let it!

Maybe you’re trying to recover from a breakup, or perhaps you’re learning to cope with the passing of a loved one. Whatever your situation, it’s possible to take action to enable you to feel less overwhelmed by these emotions.

The route you take to healing can help you gain valuable benefits from your challenging experiences.

Try these tips to triumph over emotional setbacks and get back to the happy, healthy life you’re accustomed to:

  1. Help someone in need. There’s always someone who’s worse off than you are! Chances are, if you spend time trying to help that person out of the slump they’re in, you’ll feel fulfilled and capable. In turn, this will help you rise above your own emotional setback.
    • Emphasize their strengths. Show them that they have what it takes to overcome.
    • Provide the emotional support they need. A listening ear can do wonders!
    • Allow yourself to lose yourself in that person’s cause.
  2. Get in tune with your spiritual side. Reaching inward is a very effective way to build the strength you need to recover emotionally. Whether you’re into meditation or spiritual guidance from a higher power, you can gain strength by drawing on your internal resources.
    • Try praying for emotional healing.
    • Spend time contemplating prior experiences that showed you the power of faith.
    • Most of all, believe in your abilities to overcome. If this seems hard to put faith in, ask for help from a trusted counselor. Or go straight to your higher power.
  3. Sign up for a project. Sometimes putting aside your personal feelings and focusing on a worthy cause can help you heal without you even knowing it! Your project could be a charitable feeding program to help others. Or perhaps you’d feel engaged by a sculpting course that brings out your creative side.
    • Disconnect from the source of your emotional downfall and focus on making a positive impact elsewhere.
    • Put your heart into your new project so that your emotions are engaged in something other than your sadness.
    • Share your fulfillment with friends and family.
  4. Confront your issue. Beyond all else, the most effective way to get over emotional setbacks is to look the issue right in the face. That way, you can handle the issue for what it really is. Sometimes, coming to terms with an unfortunate reality is the best remedy!
  • Are you feeling challenged by a breakup? Take an honest look at the outcome. Are there any ways that you’re better off without that person in your life?
  • Is the issue the passing of a loved one? Regardless of what you believe about what happens after death, chances are good that they’re in a much better place!
  • Did you lose your job? Take a step back and look at yourself. Which of your untapped resources can you use to turn your dilemma into a beneficial situation? Are you sitting on a talent you never explored?

We’re all designed to feel emotions, both good and bad. But we’re also made to learn from them and allow them to connect us to our true purpose in life. You’re no different!

Embrace your emotions for what they are. Accept them. Then move forward, knowing that what you learn now will help sustain you through a lifetime of challenges and joys.

7 Ways That Blogging Can Heal

Blogging serves many purposes. You may have a lot to say and want to share it. Or perhaps you like to lighten others’ lives with your sense of humor or educate them with your knowledge. Maybe your main aim is to make money with your blog.

Whatever your reason for starting your blog, there’s another great reason to blog as well. Blogging your thoughts, feelings, and ideas can promote healing for you and those who read your blog.

In many ways, blogging can facilitate discovering solutions for emotional challenges and working through whatever life brings:

  1. Journaling. Blogging provides you with an opportunity to journal about how you feel. If you don’t typically journal or keep a diary, writing about your life provides you with the “space” to record life’s events. This, in turn, can help you heal.
  2. Mental processing. Blogging encourages you to process your emotions and thoughts. As you write, you take the time to think about your experiences.
  3. Seeking solutions. Writing a blog often involves reviewing a situation and discussing possible options. Whether you blog about an event before it occurs or afterward, you’ll likely take a closer look at the situation than you normally would.
  4. Helping others. In addition to healing yourself with blogging, you can also contribute to the lives of others. When we read a blog, we learn about what another person experienced.
    • Whether the blog is about trying something new for the first time, going through a difficult life situation, or having an epiphany, we take in all the information a blogger offers to us.
    • Also, blogging promotes healing as others read about your struggles and your eventual rise above those challenges. Your readers may find your experiences inspiring. Plus, much to your readers’ delight, they might also find that your ideas help them solve their own dilemmas.
  5. Regular blogging builds confidence. Let’s face it: the more you blog, the better writer you become. Likewise, the more you evaluate your life and how to address challenging situations, the better you get at doing so.
  6. Blogging keeps you connected to something bigger than yourself. Have you ever felt lost or “free-floating,” like you weren’t attached to anyone or anything? Writing a blog can help you reconnect.
    • If you’re looking for an audience, new internet friends, or just the possibility of getting feedback on your own writing, blogging can provide these healing events.
    • When you blog, you become a member of another community: the internet. This can be healing if you feel alone or are seeking camaraderie.
  7. Blogging frees you. Being honest and telling the truth about how you feel is liberating. Throughout life, many of us have learned (or were taught) to keep our feelings and emotions under wraps. However, releasing feelings in nondestructive ways can contribute to a healthy, contented life.

As you can see, blogging will bring greater peace and contentment to you as you process your experiences. And when you blog, you also stand to touch the lives of others through your online writing. Perhaps the best part of all, though, is that you can start today!

Finding Hope in Your Life

How can you cultivate hope when things look bleak? In many ways, being happy is about having hope for the future.

Feeling like there is no hope is one of the most challenging emotions to manage. After all, why would someone even try when he believes there is no hope, and correspondingly, no possibility for things to improve?

Finding hope when it seems like there’s none to be found can be tricky, but it is possible.

It’s important to remember that no matter how hopeless things appear, there’s always the opportunity for things to get better. Even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time, things can change.

All of us have challenges at times, and we all have moments where there doesn’t appear to be a way out. Yet everyone who doesn’t give up seems to come out of his or her struggles okay.

When you’re feeling down, try these strategies to help bring back hope:

1. Consider all the miraculous things you’ve done in your life. You’ve probably learned how to walk, talk, and maybe even how to drive. Perhaps you’ve graduated from high school or college.

• Let’s think for a minute about learning how to talk. It doesn’t seem very miraculous; nearly everyone learns to do it. But consider how difficult it really is.
• Babies start out making unintelligible sounds. In a couple of years they can say a few things, though not very well. In a few more years, they can say a fair amount – though still struggle with pronunciation. This is all after years of daily effort.
So regardless of what you’re facing, remember your earlier miracles and know you’re entirely capable of working through it. For humans, the seemingly impossible is, in fact, possible.

2. Absorb optimism. Surely you’ve come across people who persistently see the bright side of things. They’re the ones that could stand in the middle of the worst thunderstorm the world has ever seen and say, “I think it’s starting to clear up.” 

Seek out these people and spend time with them. Their optimism will soon start to rub off on you. Talk to them about your challenges; they may have a perspective that can really give you a push in the right direction.

3. Think of activities that might inspire you. Use every tool at your disposal.

• Faith could be a source of inspiration.
• Simple joys, like watching children play on the playground, might bring you the spark you seek.
• Try reading books that chronicle the triumphs of others.

4. Spend time with those less fortunate. Volunteering to help the homeless or hospice patients can show you that things aren’t quite as challenging as you originally thought.

Sometimes when you observe firsthand how difficult things can be, you develop a different perspective about your own situation.

5. Also, spend some time with miraculous things. For many, nature’s bounty is awe-inspiring, from flowers and waterfalls to butterflies and spider webs. When you see what’s possible, you realize that you’re capable of remarkable things too.

6. Be courageous. Often, cultivating hope requires courage to take that first step forward. Give yourself the chance to find your way through your challenges.

If you want to find hope in your life, you always can! Although your search for hope might take some work, never give up. Just keep working through it and you’ll discover that you have plenty of reasons to be hopeful.

Another very good option is to seek the help of a trained professional. Regardless of your challenges, there are always ways through them.

How Does Getting Therapy Help?

Since therapy (also known as counseling) is a rather misunderstood concept, the suggestion that you see a counselor can be scary.

You may perceive getting therapy to mean that there’s something wrong with you. This isn’t the case! While it may not be for everyone, counseling can be beneficial to most people at challenging points in their lives.

Although it’s important to recognize that therapy is not a panacea, it makes a difference every day in thousands of lives across the world. If you find that you have uncomfortable feelings or “stuck” places in your life, you may very well benefit from this practice.

Consider these ways that therapy can help you:

1. Get an objective viewpoint. Counseling allows the opportunity to talk about your current challenges with someone who’s trained and objective. Open communication with your friends and loved ones is usually a good idea. However, there are times when you might find it more comforting and safe to share your feelings with a therapist.

2. Clarify your feelings. Many times, people begin therapy feeling confused and not really able to identify their emotions. A therapist can assist you in recognizing your feelings.

* The therapeutic process helps you explore particularly troubling emotions and resolve them.

3. Learn to appropriately communicate how you feel to others. Being able to share honest, genuine feelings using more effective communication can enrich your relationships and help you succeed in your endeavors.

* Once you learn to pay more attention to your feelings and share them with others, you’ll get more of what you want from life, whatever that may be.

* Plus, your life is more fulfilling when you live based on how you truly feel.

4. Getting therapy can be a freeing, stress-relieving experience. After all, how many times do you have an opportunity to say whatever you want however you want with no repercussions later?

* It’s possible to liberate yourself from psychological pain by talking with a therapist.

* Therapy is a safe place to vent your negative feelings. Whether you’re feeling scared, hurt, angry, lonely, or other negative emotions, you can share it with the therapist and take a load off your chest. For many, therapy is a sanctuary when they’re feeling overwhelmed with negativity in their life. This makes counseling a great stress reliever!

5. It’s all about you. When you go to therapy, the session is focused on your benefit. Your time with a counselor is all about you. You can say whatever you want.

* You don’t have to worry about being judged by the therapist, as they are trained to keep their personal feelings out of it.

6. Gain valuable insights. When you talk about yourself with someone who’s nonjudgmental and objective, you’re truly tuned in to the moment and what you’re saying.

* Therapy provides a chance for you to hear yourself talk and share your own personal struggles. It may sound unusual, but people in counseling frequently have “Aha” moments about something they shared.

* Your therapist will ask questions which encourage you to examine your current situation more thoroughly. After all, human difficulties are complex. Through this process, you can discover your motives and learn to understand yourself better.

* Developing insight and awareness into your feelings empowers you to set priorities about what’s most important to you and make choices that enable you to live the life you truly seek.

7.  Bring your strengths.  With therapy, you can develop or gain confidence in your capacity to live a healthy, fulfilling life.

Seeing a therapist can be one of the best things you’ll ever do for yourself. Most likely, you’ll experience less stress and feel more satisfied and contented with your life after participating in counseling. If you find yourself struggling emotionally, remind yourself that therapy can help.

Journaling to Increase Self-Understanding

Do you feel like your emotions are complicated and confusing? If you struggle to understand why you feel or react the ways you do, you might benefit from using a journal. Journaling can help you appropriately identify and express your feelings to increase self-understanding.
Once you learn to identify and deal with your feelings in acceptable ways, you have truly mastered self-understanding. By simply jotting down what’s going on with you and how you feel about it, you can get a handle on your emotions.


Writing your feelings in a journal helps increase self-understanding in four ways:
1. Journaling compels you to think about and process a particular situation or occurrence. When you write about an event, you automatically process the event through words and description. Recording the situation in writing can lead you to notice details you hadn’t noticed when the event took place, thus increasing your insight about the situation.

* While journaling, put aside other thoughts and just focus on the situation.

2. Journaling allows you time to identify feelings about the situation. Chances are you may not have time to analyze every event as it occurs throughout the day. However, if you pledge to journal, you know that you’ll later take the opportunity to reflect on important occurrences and consider how you felt about them.
* Labeling your feelings leads to a better understanding of how you respond in certain situations.
* Use “feeling” words when describing your emotions about a situation or event. Examples of feeling words are, “pumped,” “annoyed,” “ecstatic,” and “angry.”
* A helpful sentence structure to use in your journal is, “I felt __________ when ________ happened.”

3. Journaling helps you see why you felt the way you did. Journaling provides an opportunity to fully explore your emotions about an event or situation and come to a conclusion about your feelings. Writing about your feelings can even assist you in changing negative feelings in the future, once you figure out why you felt the way you did.
* Knowing why you responded in a certain manner increases self-understanding and also allows opportunities for change.
* When completing a journal entry, consider all the reasons why you may have felt or responded in the way you did.
*  Theorize and decide which theory best fits to explain your feelings and behavior.

4. Re-reading your journal sheds light on your progress. When you process situations through journal writing and read about them later, you’ll likely see patterns of emotions and responses that recur in similar situations.
* You might want to learn to more openly express your emotions upon identifying these patterns. Or maybe you want to work to change your pattern of responding.
* Re-reading your journal might reveal unhealthy reactions to certain situations. In this case, these reviews of your entries could help you make a commitment toward more positive and helpful reactions.
*  Take notice of your progress over time in responding to situations in positive ways.
* Regardless of whether you choose to accept your feelings or make a change, you still increase your self-understanding through reviewing your journal.

You might feel confused at times and be at a loss to explain why you responded in a certain way. However, you can improve insight by reflecting further about these situations and the feelings you experienced, especially if you see patterns of similar reactions.
Sometimes your feelings are deep-rooted and go back to an incident that happened many years ago, so similar situations now trigger similar feelings. Writing and reflecting on your journal entries may help you remember the previous incidents so you can understand your feelings and decide if they benefit you now or if you wish to pursue more positive outcomes in the future.

Try journaling today to explore how you feel and respond to life events. When you do, you’ll increase self-understanding and live a healthier, fulfilling life.