Why Zig Ziglar Brought Me to Tears

Zig Ziglar and Dr. Tracey MarksI attended a marketing event last week where the great motivational speaker Zig Ziglar spoke.  I’ve never seen him speak in person, but have seen video clips of his powerful messages.  Two years ago he suffered a fall that resulted in a head injury and impaired his memory.  At 80+ years old he still speaks but now his daughter accompanies him and interviews him to keep him on track.

No matter what she asked him, he finished the thought with how much he loves his wife and nothing matters if you don’t put relationships first.  He was like a broken record that was stuck on grove playing the same thing over and over.  I guess in today’s parlance that would be a CD with a scratch on it.

It’s typical for people with head injuries to get “stuck” in their thinking and repeat the things that are important to them.  It’s similar to becoming disinhibited from alcohol.    Angry drunks are angry people who with alcohol let it all hang out.  Same goes for happy drunks.  The alcohol doesn’t turn you into a different person, it just makes you show who you really are and what’s really on your mind.

Back to Zig Ziglar.  It became amusing after a while when he told us for the 20th time how much he loves his wife.  I was deeply moved as I thought about how his head injury has revealed what this man is really about – love and commitment.  That’s the dominant theme in his heart that repeats endlessly.

It made me think – what if I were similarly injured today?  What would I be stuck on?  The answer to that lies in my motivations and priorities.

What about you?  What would we hear you talk about over and over?  Is how you spend your time a true reflection of what you think is important in your life?  It’s worth examining and adjusting if needed.  Life is precarious and things can change in an instant.  It’s too late for Mr. Ziglar to change his script.  But he doesn’t need to.

Free Yourself from Anxiety

Don’t let anxiety and worry take over your life – it can make you sick and can ruin your life! You have the choice to allow it to or not. There are ways to help yourself overcome this obstacle.

  1. Figure out what is stressing you. Is it something you can change? What is the true source?
  2. Be careful not to put blame on a secondary source when in reality the primary source is causing the stress. (in other words: don’t quit your marriage just because you haven’t dealt with something else that is truly bothering you – this will take some soul searching)
  3. Change: there are plenty of areas you can change in your life without throwing away a lot! Diet, exercise, attitude, volunteer, shop, study a new language and more.
  4. Spend some time on you!

Here are some tips and techniques to help you manage your anxiety:

  • Know your anxieties
  • Write them down
  • Breath
  • Visualize a better situation
  • Positively Affirm yourself: “I am…(insert positive statement that applies)”
  • Diet and exercise: take good care of yourself – it will really take care of you in return (and your worries!)
  • Seek support – if you need help – look for it – talk to someone – look online or in the phone book. Help is only a call away!

Learn by example. Watch and listen to others that have gone through hardships. Read books – you will read about someone that is worse off then you and who made it through. There are many success stories and free programs that will help you realize your strengths and stay away from anxiety.

Anxieties are a part of life but they don’t need to be the foundation of yours. You are strong and smart and you have come a long way – give yourself some credit – you deserve it!

Manage stress well and take the reins – they are yours to take – no one else will do it for you. Good luck – you are on the road to health and wellness and you will be so happy for all the work you do for yourself.

Self–Esteem: Adults and Children

Self-esteem in adults and childrenParents have a huge effect on their children’s self esteem. Studies have revealed that there is a huge correlation between self esteem between adults and children. Your outlook hugely effects your child’s perspective in life. For example: a parent being unsocial makes the child unsocial, etc. This relationship can affect many areas of a child’s life and future.

Be conscious about things that may manifest in your child’s life. Role playing is the key in the growing years of children – you must role play the example for them. They see themselves in it. Self esteem is important because it makes a child proud of who they are and comfortable with who they are.

Children must gain acceptance with friends and not be reclusive in nature. This is responsible for allowing respect for an individual. This need occurs in the beginning of growth – it is always present. The need for self esteem is huge. The ups and downs of life are trained and harnessed by self esteem and attitude; also it is the same with inner battles.

As children get older they must take on the responsibility of developing there own self esteem. This happens by watching others. They especially watch parents. Humor is the BEST manifestation of self-esteem. It speaks of confidence and self acceptance. This also gauges how a person carries themselves in public.
Self esteem helps children want more. They will crave more attention but also want to satisfy their needs to feel good about themselves. It makes kids see things in a whole new light – a positive light. It makes them want to do more and to achieve great things.

Parents should always try to make a point to display a great showcase of self esteem and confidence. Don’t forget to spice it up with lots of positivity and humor. You will not be sorry you did. It is for your child’s future after all. You cannot let go enough in this area – really make a point of speaking of yourselves and others in a positive and confident way to set the example.

How to Stop Burnout Before It Starts

Burnout affects your mind, body and spirit. It can make you exhausted, anxious, and even depressed if you don’t make changes – it can even cause health problems. Recognizing warning signs can help you stop burnout before it begins. Life changes encourage this as well.

Here are a few tips to keeping burnout away:

Pace your work: Don’t take on too much. Give yourself breaks – it’s healthy! Use management techniques to ensure you are on track. Take things off if there are too many.

Avoid Exhaustion: Stay in tune with your body – don’t ignore it! Do things to improve your energy – recharge your battery with things you love – remember what makes you tick and keep it near. Don’t lose knowing about things that you love. Like wen you are small and you love horses or baseball – keep things that make you tick as an adult!

Change Is Good: If you see a repeating pattern of reaching the burnout point – then it’s time for a change – change can be very good! Change a job, a relationship, a house, a garden, etc.

Take Breaks: psychologically you need breaks. There are reasons why you need them. Your mind is not a machine it is a living organ that needs time to refresh, rejuvenate, and renew. Go for a 10-minute walk, play game, or just simply get away from the work for 10 minutes.

Ask For Help: If you need help – it’s okay to ask for it. Vent your frustrations but focus on the issue not the person – that always helps most and hurts less!

Set Boundaries and Learn to Say No: If you say yes to everything then you are being more than accommodating you are being a door mat. You must have your boundaries just like others must have theirs.

Listen to Your Alarms: Most importantly you must listen to yourself. If something seems wrong then it probably is. You must discover what is setting your alarm off. You are valid and you deserve to know what makes you tick. You have mechanisms in place to protect you and others so be sure to listen to your alarms.

Breath: If you ever begin to panic or become very nervous – remember to breath and tell yourself that this will pass too. You need to know what you can handle and get out when you can’t handle something. If you can’t get away from a source of stress, wait until you can and then go take a walk or a break or something. Movement really makes a huge difference. Move the blood in your body to help heal stress.

These are just a few ways to avoid burnout. Do it – it matters!

Advice on Managing Time

Managing TimeTime can make or break you. Riding the wave of getting a million things done in as little time as possible is insane. How could anyone keep up?

There are no rules for saving time – but here are a few tips. (Remember to make yours up as you go!)

  • Seclude yourself from all distractions and focus on one thing for a period of time.
  • A place for everything and everything in its place – it works!
  • Change your behavior that’s counterproductive to saving time – if it’s waking up too late – take steps to change it!
  • Streamline, minimize, organize and clear your mind.
  • Keep time in mind – when working – estimate the amount of time it should take to do what you’re doing for each task. Do this for everything that applies.
  • Don’t plan so much that you don’t get any action going. Plan a little and get to it.
  • Procrastinators never get it done – let alone done right.
  • Be a goal-setter. Setting goals will get you in the mind-set of what you want and need.
  • Give yourself little rewards for completing things that you do. You are never too old for a prize!
  • Take little breaks. A reward can be to finish a certain portion then pause to check on that item you wanted to, or do that quick task you are putting off to be focused on this one thing. Then you are multi-tasking as well.

Find what works for you, everyone is very different in how they operate, but take the time to get to know you and what makes you tick. Exploring your desires and wishes and having the time to do it is so important. Don’t let yourself get lost. You are worth it. Knowing your identity feels good!

Be sure to take steps that make sense for you – don’t let anyone tell you what you need – you tell yourself after you realize it. Keep what you discover in the front of your mind and move with that knowledge. Enjoy and good luck!